That’s what I was thinking. My nickname is mom but my full name is mom shirt. The Christmas card seems like a passive-aggressive jab to me. Then they got angry when called on their shit. NTA They’re being very disrespectful to your wife and are trying to sabotage your sons’ view of their names. I didn’t change my name when I got married and my own grandmother sent me mail addressed to Mrs. Hisfirstname Hislastname. She’s 98 so not a fight worth having, but it hurts to feel so erased. I was explaining to my boyfriend recently that I hate the Mr. & Mrs. Bob Smith thing. Like really, so women can’t even keep their first name?
What does MOM stand for?
I understand usually it’s just people being old fashioned, but it bothers me. I actually prefer to receive a letter that says Mr. & Mrs. Bob Smith over a letter that says, Bob & Jane Smith. My last name is not the same as his so it’s not Jane Smith, at least with Mr. & Mrs. Bob Smith just indicates I’m married to Bob Smith and they know my actual name is not Bob. You know what’s worse? If a woman has a doctorate and her husband doesn’t stuff is addressed as “Dr. and Mrs. Husband’s Full Name” sometimes. Like they see Dr. and it doesn’t even occur to them that it could be the wife. I remember seeing someone’s tweet where they asked their doctor “why don’t you practice medicine with your husband’s last name?” and she responded, “because he didn’t go to medical school.”
My nickname is mom but my full name is mom shirt, ladies, v-neck t-shirt, tank top, flowy tank.
I have a friend who didn’t change her name when she got married for exactly this reason. She felt no need to tack Doctor on to HIS name when she’s the one who put the work in. I loved that line because to me it was just a little “see even the bad guy isn’t a bigot when it comes to how people want to be addressed.” Or what happened to my parents. Distant family members have sent things “Dr and Mrs. Last name” when anyone who is actually related to ya knows it’s “Drs. Last name”. This always bothered me so I started addressing cards and invitations as Mr. Joe and Dr. Jane Smith. Some people thought these sounded stilted, but the people who received them appreciated them. With my parents, they are in that situation (my mother has a doctorate and didn’t change her name). They haven’t gotten the Dr. and Mr. full name thing yet, but there’s been a plague of people, especially hotel receptionists, expecting a gay couple and being very surprised when Dr. Mom’slastname is a woman.
Official My nickname is mom but my full name is mom sweater, hoodie, and long sleeve
This happened all the time with my parents. My nickname is mom but my full name is mom shirt. My Mom’s a doctor and my Dad’s a dentist. She practices under her maiden name but otherwise has his last name. Still Dr and Mrs. his name and his last name. While annoying would it ever be Dr. and Mr. Jane Smith? Would that be offensive to men? Is it weird? I never really thought of it until I read your comment so I don’t have any answers. Looking at some social interaction and how a lot of it works, this thought is deeper in us than we think it is.