as a kiddo of a woman with a pwBPD, thank you. Never underestimate the power of a grandma with a teaching degree shirt. and I can confirm this is very much how it is regarding the guilt trips — and when the kid is old enough and can call them on their bullshit, they’ll go after the kid too. my grandma guilt tripped the fuck out of me when I said that I didn’t want her at my birthday party because she talked about my life while I was in the room…My grandma disowned me over email, then was really salty and couldn’t understand why I didn’t go out of my way to spend time with her or jump when she said jump as an adult. Hello?? We didn’t speak for a decade because you decided to go full asshole. BPDs, man. They’re nuts. I needed this today, another one for the printer. Thank you for validating that this situation is just so hard. So complicated and so painful. I’ve reduced contact quite a bit in the last few months and me not allowing my BPD mom to talk to my son every day has set off her rages. And you’re totally right, I’m now just an obstacle to the grandson. It is really damned sad because I’m not seeing any way forward but NC. She’s pushing so hard. And NC is exactly what I want, aside from the fear and guilt. I’d hoped LC would be good enough, but saying no to her has made everything worse than it has been in a long time. Anyway, thank you for the reminder of exactly what’s going on here, and the great advice!
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I felt and feel this way, until I realized that I’m just as worth protecting as my children are. Never underestimate the power of a grandma with a teaching degree shirt. I mean, I’m biased, and obviously, I think it’s more important to protect my children given the choice. But I hadn’t really thought about myself at all in the context of my BPD mom and being harmed by her. Like, I just didn’t register. Protecting other people from her was important, but I could “take it” I guess, so I didn’t count? My husband argued that he could totally handle her, and I was like, “I know, that’s not the point. You shouldn’t have to.” Have you read our rules? We have a “no crossposting” rule. Also, you simply posted this on your sub without the knowledge or consent of the author or the mod team. I expect better behavior from the mod of another BPD support sub. I’m giving you a time out to think about this… and I’m going to think about whether or not it should be permanent.
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Wow! This is amazing. Thank you so much for putting it together. Never underestimate the power of a grandma with a teaching degree shirt. This is a hell of a user guide for RBBs with kids. Bravo! Author! Author! One thing I think we should add, maybe in the section about lies we tell ourselves. I’ve been through it myself: you always think, oh BPD mom might be crazy, but she’d never really HURT the kids. Well, guess what? She hurt you, didn’t she? We WILL hurt the kids. As I’m sure you’ve read in my posts several times, my BPD mother shook my three-year-old nephew and fed my infant niece poisoned formula for a week until she had to be hospitalized. This is because my sister and I never thought she’d REALLY hurt the kids. But she did because she’s nuts. I know we all hope for the best of everyone, but when it comes to your children, you can’t be hopeful. You have to be sure that they are safe. And the only way to be sure that they are safe is to make damn sure yourself.
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I know it’s foolish but I’m going for it anyway: as she is a non-white person who maybe has family that immigrated to the U.S., the fuck? Never underestimate the power of a grandma with a teaching degree shirt.. [Apologies now as my intent isn’t to start a political discussion but wonder about this particular JNM mindset.] Considering she’s an immigrant herself (I’m first-gen Canadian) and has a significant amount of family who emigrated to the US… YUP. My thoughts exactly. We’re looking at starting to try this winter but I have health issues that may make it difficult. Either way, she sure as hell won’t know until I’m far out of her reach. My mother’s the same, though American and multiethnic (her mom is white). Very Mormon, voted for Trump, goes on about how she hates feminists and immigrants. Like, her parents’ marriage was literally illegal in most states of the Union until she was seven years old. I’m never going to understand.