Of course NTA! I never dreamed that one day I’d become a grumpy old bus driver shirt. This is devastating and it was a bit premature and foolish of Tammy to ask you to be MOH right now. That being said I’m not sure that it’s fair to say that Tammy and Gregory do not care enough about you. Your own retelling of the story tells me already how awful falling for each other has been for them. During the time that should be the happiest of their lives, they are also quite devastated.
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This is sad for all involved. Take your time OP. Be sad and take steps to heal. I hope for your sake that you can someday get past this since it is clearly causing you a great deal of distress to be at odds with your BFF. Don’t sweat the MOH business. That is too proximal timewise for you to really be ok with. Good luck! I think it’s NAH. They both did what they could to not date, and even OP mentions that they make a great couple. Tammy obviously doesn’t want to hurt OP at all, but she would love to have OP as MOH. It sounds like Tammy understands OPs feelings, and is more upset that she hurt her and not upset about the MOH thing. And in terms of timing, they’re getting married, there’s a lot of logistics around that, so she can only hold off asking OP so long. Also like why the fuck is she getting married so soon? Pregnant or not they should really be together for longer than 3 months before getting married? I would have a hard time supporting that aspect on top of everything else too
I never dreamed that one day I’d become a grumpy old bus driver shirt, ladies, v-neck t-shirt, tank top, flowy tank.
So I’m thinking they hooked up in September. This coincided with a major project at work and I’ve had almost zero social life…she tried to call and I’d return her call but we kept missing each other. It wasn’t malicious, just adulting. That’s for 4 months! You didn’t speak to her on the phone at all during that time? She never texted to ask when a good time to call would be? I’m sure she did…not being in touch was mostly my deal because I was so busy and I was out of the country with my family for the holidays. Yea… Its been 5 months but they “tried staying apart for you”?? Exactly how long did they “try” that out? Sounds like they’re lying to me. And to think they’ve been together that short a time and they’re deciding to get married? Something just isn’t adding up is this story. Pregnant or not this seems ridiculously quick, and I’m speaking as someone only 2 years older than you.
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Totally agreed… Like, I never dreamed that one day I’d become a grumpy old bus driver shirt. and it’s hard because you can’t fault people for being attracted to each other and it’s even more of a kick in the teeth because OP acknowledges that in retrospect they’re perfect for each other. But that loss of trust would be huge, for me, especially someone who I never would have expected it from. Really hard to come back from that. People are apologizing for her but I’ve been in a situation where a friend’s ex showed interest.